Breakups can be hard and trying to move on after one is never easy. What doesn’t help is when some of us make it extremely impossible for ourselves to even try.
You can never drive out the memories of your ex, and you have to stop yourself from calling or texting them every hour. We fantasise about old lovers, and thanks to social media it is easy to stalk them. All this makes moving on a distant dream.
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Instead, we try out new ways to become a thirst trap. And one thing most of us try is the post-breakup makeover aka a new body. This is the revenge body, where you suddenly look stunning, and this is your subtle revenge to show your ex what a loser he/she was for dumping you. It sounds fun, right?
What do you have to lose? You get attention, and maybe possibly even your old lover back?
This is where you are wrong! You have way more to lose if you don’t tread carefully.
Don’t overdo the diet and gym routine.
Akriti Rana, a history student at Delhi University, was left in the lurch by her boyfriend of four years without a reason. It left her broken, to say the least. She thought she needed a revenge body to get her love back.
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“I joined the gym and followed every instruction of my trainer. I ate things I never thought I would. I used to stare at myself with disgust after every gym session. I was hurting myself physically, and my mental state also worsened. Despite my new body, it was a waste. I got to know that my ex had moved on in less than a month. A month!
“I have been falling sick repeatedly. The doctor has asked me to take it easy, and eat normally without starving myself. It was such a foolish idea to chase my ex,” she admits.
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Ankita isn’t alone. A lot of teenagers and most in their early 20s who find themselves in love, do prioritise their boyfriends or girlfriends way more than they actually deserve. In the process, they lose their own selves. They want to look like supermodels overnight, but is it really worth it? Why lose it all for a revenge body?
According to a meta-study of 31 long-term studies on dieters led by UCLA professor Traci Mann concludes that while most were able to lose up to 10% of their body weight, within four or five years “the majority of people regained all the weight, plus more.”
Restricting your body to a fixed diet, you miss out on a lot of necessary proteins and vitamins. Eating disorders can cause serious health consequences. This, however, takes no time to shape into anorexia characterized by low weight, food restriction, fear of gaining weight, and a strong desire to be thin.
Stop stalking and obsessing.
One might feel that looking at your ex’s profile once is harmless, but that is when ‘looking’ gets toxic. You are swamped with negative thoughts, then you look even more, and want to get closer, this is you becoming a stalker.
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This obsessive behaviour is plainly self-harming. A person loses self-confidence and stops loving themselves.
Stress overload.
A University of California study from 2010 measured self-reported stress levels of women who were monitoring their diets and found that their perceived stress increased over a three-week period. This forced transformation, by monitoring diet, becomes a mental issue. Not feeling good about yourself is already sickening and a lot many find it difficult to get over it.
The need to get a perfect body clearly states that you are not happy about the way you are and someone else’s opinion matters to you which is again something that must be addressed.
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Self-love comes first.
One must focus on the growth of their mindset. You must improve yourself for yourself and not for anybody else. Stop punishing yourself and forgive others. You have to let go of the old to be able to welcome the new.
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